By Julia Balzer
For Unwind magazine
Do you remember your first day of freshman year? It could have been years or just weeks ago, but I’m sure you had expectations. Maybe you were anticipating your new classes or making new friends. But more likely than not, you also had expectations of sex in college.
Some first-year students come to this university not knowing what to expect about sex in college.
“I’ve learned from the movies,” freshman government and politics major Matt Stubeck said.
The movies highlight partying, drinking and the ever so vague “hooking-up,” Stubeck said. But what is sex in college really like?
Junior public health sciences major Aaron South revealed he “expected college to be like American Pie,” with lots of drinking, partying and sex. In some ways, after two years at the University of Maryland, that notion is right, South said.
Yet Megan Capitelli, a junior enrolled in letters and sciences, noted “it is pretty evenly split between hooking up, dating and just being single.”
Many students who have been through their first year realize that it is less wild than what they originally imagined.
“There are not hot girls just knocking on your doors,” junior computer science major Zach Kolodny said.
Well, then, who is “hooking up?”
“Not all [students are],” said junior Katelyn McCormick. With this university being such a diverse school, there are many different cultures, upbringings and interests represented, McCormick said. These are just some of the factors that may influence a student’s sex life. If a student does not want to be sexually active in college, they are not alone.
What are the expectations of a ”hook-up?” If only the question were that simple. “Hook-up” is a vague term that can mean anything from a kiss to having sex.
“For a different group, it means a different thing,” said junior electrical engineering major Corey Ferrick.
It is clear that most people consider a hook-up casual or unplanned, perhaps happening with someone unfamiliar. This is a term often linked to college life and, according to many students, is familiar here in College Park.
There are also college students in relationships. Are there different expectations of sex when you are in a relationship?
To many, “sex is expected in a college relationship,” said junior business management and marketing major Amanda Obenland.
But should it be?
“If you want to do it, then great,” Obenland said. “It shouldn’t be something you break up over.”
College isn’t a wild sex party, and hot girls aren’t going to knock down your door anytime soon. Sex is there if you want it, but you won’t be the only one not doing it, either. The moral of this story? It’s not worth it to worry about what other Terps are doing in the bedroom – figure out what works for you. It’s only college, after all.